tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831999577289960676.post5895837862507854078..comments2023-03-25T07:49:14.933-04:00Comments on Cat Uncaged: Returning an Adopted Child.....Catrinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09526555697223330845noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831999577289960676.post-24034055938454996432010-03-01T13:36:12.243-05:002010-03-01T13:36:12.243-05:00Thank you for your comments!Thank you for your comments!Catrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526555697223330845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831999577289960676.post-25274527538998658842010-03-01T13:05:17.605-05:002010-03-01T13:05:17.605-05:00My personal "qualifications" are growing...My personal "qualifications" are growing up with a very disturbed sibling which culminated in his incarceration for murder. The education after such trauma is years long and from what I have read about such disturbances this kid is almost beyond LASTING help, esp by the age of 11yo. So VERY sad, but true. If things are true that the state did NOT disclose the proper information AND provide the extreme necessary help for the family then there is a REAL PROBLEM on the states part. This kid is going to end up in the state system as a criminal regardless from the sounds of it. Again, so VERY sad, but this type of "unfixable" situation is not abnormal by the age of 11 and the degree that is being described. This child had severe abuse somewhere in their life and not just born with fetal alcohol syndrome. Whether or not the child is blood related, based on the information provided, I feel it is reasonably warranted that the child should have been charged with attempted murder and incarcerated/institutionalized, even if not as an adult, that IMMEDIATELY shows there is a VERY SERIOUS problem!! I personally don't see it as unwarranted to return the child back to the state if they were negligent to fully disclose issues because I can GUARANTEE he exhibited disturbing enough behaviors in their custody leading up to his final adoption if it only took approximately two years to drive the adoptive parents to this decision as it is. Yes, there are issues to deal with adopted children, but this seems rather extreme and there is a need for the state to be held responsible for their own deceit and negligence.sharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831999577289960676.post-66181889017869431292010-03-01T12:25:19.562-05:002010-03-01T12:25:19.562-05:00I am sure that returning the child was not an easy...I am sure that returning the child was not an easy decision for these parents to make. I am sure it was actually a very heartbreaking decision for them. They had to have already gone through a lot to finally get to the point where they decided to adopt. And then the hoops you go through to be allowed to adopt and then to finally have a child "become available". Not just anyone can handle children with disabilites or mental issues. It takes very special people. I myself do not think I could handle that kind of child. In your question of whether or not the parents may treat the child differently if he were biological.....well, I assume these parents REALLY want children, so the mother would not have drank during pregnancy...avoiding the fetal alcohol syndrome. I also assume that if their biological child were born with disablities they would have sought out help at an early age in hopes of avoiding or lessening future negative and perhaps violent beahavior. It is a very sad situation, but I do not feel I can pass judgement for either side until I am in that situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com